{snippets}

below are a few subjects that are currently "drafts" on my blog, but have not evolved into actual posts due to time. and because it may not happen before i finish my stay here, thought i'd at least share as snippets...


{adoption is second best}
i often remind myself that adoption exists because of the fallen world we live in. because otherwise, as good as adoption can be, it can ever compare to a child being loved and cared for by their own parents. adoption is, and will always be, second best.  


{real answers to real questions}
no, i'm not a spy! do i look like a spy?

and no, americans don't adopt children from china to conduct lab experiments. yes, this even applies to families adopting children with special needs; they are NOT doing so for the purpose of furthering science somewhere. 

(unfortunately all these answers have been used on more than one occasion.) 


{gotcha day}
i've never been a fan of that adoption terminology which many use to mark the day a child enters their adoptive family. and now that i've experienced all that i have these past few months... i think it is fair to say i strongly dislike the phrase. 

amongst other opinions, i feel the phrase significantly belittles all that a child has gone through and makes them sound like an object of a game such as "tag" or "hot potato." no judgement to those who use this phrase, but if i ever have the privilege of adopting some day... there will be no "gotcha day."


{don't forget the foster moms}
i've witnessed two different foster moms as they've had to say good-bye to four different children being adopted. and i cannot begin to describe what i observed. 

not that any length of time is easier than another, but in two of the situations the girls had been a part of their foster family for 6(!!) years. can you imagine caring for a child as your own, and then, after six years, having to say good-bye? and unfortunately, due to culture, language, socio-economic status and educational differences (that limit the likelihood of keeping in touch via technology, even if it were allowed/encouraged), these "good-byes" may be forever.